Lip Reading

As a Deaf woman, who began losing my hearing early in my life, I rely on technology or interpreters when dealing with hearing people.  In a perfect situation for me, everyone uses American Sign Language.

Two questions I am constantly asked are:

  1. Do I read Braille? (Yes, this is a very common question for deaf people!)
  2. Do read lips?

Movies and popular culture has the average person thinking everyone can read lips just like James Bond; from across a crowded room and in forty-seven different languages.

That is simply not true.  There are people, such as my friend TW, who has spent a lifetime learning to speech read (the new term for lip reading) – literally over five decades worth of practice and study.

The attached video ( provides real information about speech reading.  Copy and past or go to my Facebook page to watch.

So the next time you meet a D/deaf or Hard of Hearing person, you might what to reconsider before you ask, “Can you read lips?” or “Do you read Braille?”

My response is usually, “NO!” with an evil smile, then I sign “DO YOU KNOW SIGN LANGUAGE?”  They usually turn and run away.

Thank you for your time and as always “Keep Reading!”

Raj Lowenstein

Memorial Day Greetings!

My father was in the Navy.  I have uncles and cousins who all served our country in one branch of the Military or another.

To my father, family and all those who have and are now serving in the Military, my thanks to you all!

You Honor your Families, your Country and you humble me for what you do.

May the Creator look down upon you with love and protection.

Raj Lowenstein

The Joy of the F Word!

I think cursing is a bunch of malarkey. Brian Wilson

Ok, just a show of hands if you have or have been told you have a “potty mouth.”  (I know you can’t see me, but both hands are in the air!)

I love the F word.  It is almost cathartic when it rolls off my tongue. The shape and the force which it requires to inform someone they are a “F#$khead!”  Oh the pleasure, when either vocally or with the all magic middle finger, you enlighten the clueless of your opinion, perhaps about them, perhaps just in general.

As I have gotten older and have acquired grandchildren, I have attempted to use cleaner vocabulary.  All the time, no! However, certainly not if little ears are about.

My eldest son, Jeff, once yelled at the top of his little three year old voice for everyone within earshot to “Fuck off!”  Where did this offense happen?  Why on a Saturday morning in the supermarket. I know I am not the only parent who has experienced this sort of rude awaking.

We laugh about it now, as he is a father.

So is it alright to have a character in a book use foul words.  I look to the experts who I read for guidance. #NoraRoberts, #StephenKing, #DeanKoontz, #JacquelineSusann and #CliveCussler all have had people populating their stories who might drop the “F” bomb occasionally or it is just part of who they are.

I like a mouthy character.  I need to discover one for my next book.

Thank you for your time and as always “Keep Reading!”

Raj Lowenstein

Happy Mother’s Day!

We all had a mother, someone who carried us for nine months inside her protective womb.  Many of us have a mama, mum, mom as well!

Of course, many of us are mothers/mamas as well.

I have three wonderful children!  I also have three fabulous grandchildren.  I am blessed they are healthy and happy.

So today, I simply want to thank my Mama and the other mothers in my life.

I Love you all, you know who you are!

Thank you for your time and as always “Keep Reading!”

Raj Lowenstein

My Wonderful, Crazy, Bossy, Loving, Supportive SISTER!

Sister is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship.      Margaret Mead

Michael Braun in Through the Fire didn’t have a sister.  She had a wonderful brother.  Daniel had his twin, David.

The FBI Trilogy tells the story of three sisters.  I know about sisters as I have one of the best in the world.

Margaret Mead had it correct.  My sister is older and when we were growing up, she was the BOSS when my parents were not home.   Even though we are several years past our teenage years, she sometimes thinks she’s still the BOSS…and that’s O.K.

We weren’t close for many years, having gone our separate ways.  It took an almost-tragedy to allow us to both understand how important we were to each other.  Someone asked me if having a heart attack and heart surgery was the worst thing to happen to me.  I told them no, it was a blessing.  It was the event that showed me how wonderful and loving my sister is.

Even though we live far away from each other; she is my support and my sounding board for life.

We text many times every day. She is the only person I can understand on facetime, so she is the only person I ever speak to directly on the phone.  Everyone else is a text or an interpreted phone call.

We take trips together, leaving our husbands to fend for themselves. So far they have managed to survive.

I haven’t written the dedication to the trilogy, but when I do.  One will say:

To my dearest sister, Vicki.  Before we had our wonderful husbands to

bolster us and love us; before we had our children to fill our hearts,

we had each other.  There is no one who fills my life with so much.

Thank you for being my sister! Thank you for being my friend.

Thank you for your time and as always “Keep Reading!”

Raj Lowenstein

Where oh where?  Holiday and Laziness!

I’m back!

Where was I?  Good question.

I was home. Part of the absence was due to the Jewish Holiday of Pesach (or Passover.)

I was busy and tried to keep work to a minimum.  Writing is not really work to me, but… (shoulder shrug)

I wanted to get something up on the BLOG even if it wasn’t insightful.

So, for today, this is it.

I promise I will get a meaningful BLOG post in a few days. Or, I will at least try.

Thank you for your time and as always “Keep Reading!”

Raj Lowenstein